Unleashing the Perfect Package

Yes, it’s true. I am a perfectionist. I admit it. In fact, I can’t remember a time when I didn’t consider myself a perfectionist. And, for the longest time, I always thought this was a good thing.  In job interviews, this was my standard answer when they asked what I considered to be a weakness. I said that I was a perfectionist so they would know that I would always give 100% to the task at hand and not rest until everything was, well – perfect!  Sounds like an admirable quality, don’t you think?

While being a perfectionist has served me in some ways, I have now learned that it also holds me back from achieving what I want.

Here’s an up close look at what being perfect really means.

Perfect: is a measure of a leader’s need to attain flawless results and perform to extremely high standards in order to feel secure and worthwhile as a person. Worth and security is equated with being perfect, performing consistently at heroic levels, and succeeding beyond all expectations (definition taken from The Leadership Circle Profile).

How this has served me is seen through my ability to get things done and achieve results. People are genuinely pleased with my efforts and they know that no matter how busy I am, I will always rise to the occasion. What drives my behaviour however is not actually to be perfect, but rather my desire to be loved and accepted and to know that I am worthy.

The interesting thing is that others don’t actually see me as needing to be perfect. This is only how I see myself.

So, as I journey through my life, my work takes me closer to the understanding that this belief about being perfect is no longer serving me. It’s exhausting and it actually moves me further away from, instead of closer to, what I want.

So, I’ve decided it’s time to change. Time to let go of the illusion that being perfect provides me with the protective armour that maybe I’m am enough on my own.  While this is still a work in progress, I know its work that is worthwhile and will serve me greater then my old belief.